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Thursday, April 11, 2013

Resources for Help to Explain GP/DTP and/or a Chronic Illness to Family and Friends

I have noticed a trend in comments and questions asking how to go about explaining to people who might believe that GP/DTP is all in your head. I have some great resources to help you explain to others how you feel and to prove that you're not making it up.


The first is THE SPOON THEORY.. It's easier to explain to people when you use this method. It drives the point home. I've used this method myself and it's tried and true. The website that has all of the details is HERE.


Another resource I would recommend is GASTROPARESIS AND ME.. Tanya, the creator of the page, has posted a video showing her during a bad GP Attack that will bring tears to your eyes but it will help show people you love what you go through on a daily basis. She's big on raising awareness and passing legislation to bring funding to GP/DTP.


My blog contains lots of online resources and groups for GP that might help you. Additionally, there's an article I have in there entitled, "When Telling Someone They Look Good Becomes an Insult." The article can be found here: http://www.emilysstomach.com/2013/01/when-telling-someone-they-look-great.html There are a lot of articles that I've written that touch on this subject. They can be found here: http://www.emilysstomach.com/2017/11/information-to-help-newly-diagnosed-and.html along with other helpful information.


I started my blog to help my friends and family understand what I went through on a daily basis. I've written about my personal journey. I actually had a few friends come to me and apologize once they read what I was going through. You could always start writing about your experiences and share it with friends and family like I did. It's therapeutic and it helps.


There is a video that my friend Tanya recorded during her GP attack. If you have family or friends who think this is all in your head, show them THIS VIDEO.


Additionally, there is another video I would recommend that one of my friends with Gastroparesis made of her husband discussing his experience in dealing with his wife's illness. It's a touching video (it made me tear up) and probably will help others understand what it is like to be the loved one of a person suffering from Gastroparesis and how much of a struggle it is. Most importantly, though, that it shows that Gastroparesis is NOT in your head, or that you are making it up, or that it is something you can just bounce back from. The video can be found here: http://youtu.be/qNLc5wyE4Fc


There is a lot of self-doubt. When you are told constantly that your illness is in your head by doctors (who have the test results in front of them proving that you have gastroparesis but they don't want to deal with you because your case is too complicated - that's happened to me, not all doctors mind you, just some), your family tells you it's in your head, your spouse or partner doesn't believe you - I mean, it all adds up. You feel like you're going crazy and you start to doubt yourself when you are told this all of the time. It really messes with your head and leads to anxiety, which makes gastroparesis attacks (or flares, whatever you want to call them) happen. It hurts and you feel betrayed by your body, family, friends, doctors, etc. It just makes you frustrated and upset. But, you have to let go of the self doubt because YOU KNOW YOUR BODY BETTER THAN ANYONE ELSE! You are a lot stronger than you think you are.

ALSO, IT IS NOT IN YOUR HEAD!

I want to make sure that you know that. There are support groups that can help give advice. My group is, Stronger than Gastroparesis (GP Warriors): http://www.facebook.com/groups/strongerthanGP/ You are NOT alone. Feel free to join to the group to ask the members in there how they've dealt with explaining things to their family and how they have let go of self doubt. We also have sister groups that can help you in addition to our main group above.




Sunday, April 7, 2013

Advice for the Newly Diagnosed with GP/DTP

Today, I posted this question to one of the groups I used to be in, "if you could give any advice to the newly diagnosed with GP/DTP, what would it be?" I received some amazing responses, so I thought I would share them in this article. I've tried to cite people as best as I can without giving away personal information. Please note that letters in all caps and bold are links.

I know that when I was finally diagnosed in March of last year, I did two things that really helped me.

The first thing I did was start this blog. I started it to keep track of my medical information, visits, testing, and everything else that I wouldn't remember later. My main goal was to help people through my own experiences so that maybe they wouldn't repeat things that I have done in the past like listening to bad advice from doctors. I was put on two medications that actually did the same things AND they slowed down motility! I also know that through my research, there's not really a whole lot on the internet about Gastroparesis or support groups. So, I made THIS entry to put all of my research in one place for people who may need support groups. My article with online resources has since been used by United Healthcare as an electronic resource for GP/DTP.

The second thing I did was purchase a journal. I carry my journal around with me everywhere! I do daily entries to log what I eat, when I eat, what time, when gastric spasms start, if I go to the bathroom, when I get sick, how much I got sick, and how I feel. You can give this journal to your doctor for them to read to help them understand what you're going through. If your stomach is like mine, it betrays you when you get to the doctor so that the doctor thinks it's fine. It will also help you distinguish patterns in what you eat and what makes you sick. It might cut down on the amount of testing needed at the doctor's office as well. I've got a TARDIS journal that I write in because I'm a huge Doctor Who fan. A picture of my journal is below.



Also, here is a picture of me during Christmas 2011, before I became ill. The picture below it is the one I took today.




In addition to my own personal advice, I would like to add some more from the wonderful GP Facebook Page that I own/admin. Here is a list compiled from that page.

1. Emily's Stomach. http://www.facebook.com/emilysstomach I have admins who will help you keep motivated and to help to answer any questions you may have. You can PM the page and we will answer your question to the best of our ability. I would also suggest joining a support group. I have a lot of good ones listed in a different article.

2. Be your own advocate (Kirsten). I can't stress this enough! Being your own advocate and do research on the newest treatments for GP. Look up the medication you're prescribed and see if the doctor missed potential side effects like slow motility, nausea, and vomiting. Like I said previously, my GI doctor put me on two medications that did the exact same thing and they slowed my motility WAY down. HERE is a list of medications that make GP worse. **Please consult your doctor and pharmacist about medications as I'm just giving advice, I am not practicing medicine. I'm trying to guide but not take the place of the professionals. Always check with them FIRST.**

3. Believe in yourself (Melissa)! You are your own cheerleader and you CAN do this! I know the road may seem rough sometimes but believe in yourself like we believe in you.

4. Research your condition (Diana)! Sadly, doctors don't know everything. You should research your diagnosis. However, with all things on the Internet, make sure you're researching reliable sources (Melissa). It's important for you to stay on top of all of the latest news about GP/DTP because most doctors aren't very familiar with GP or how to treat it. I usually go into the doctor armed with knowledge he doesn't have. Most people with GP, I've found, know more about GP than the doctor.

5. Ask Questions (Melissa)! I can't stress this enough. After you do your own research, compose a list of questions that you have for the doctor and bring them in with you. If you write down what you need to ask, you won't forget. I've given my doctor a list of questions that I've written down before. He addressed them all. Ask about other treatment options for GP like Botox, the Gastric Pacemaker, and Domperidone.

6. GI doctors at the MN Mayo Clinic recommend marijuana, where it's legal, to help with GP (Melony). Be careful though, because even though marijuana might help you eat, it can also slow motility.

7. It's NOT all in your head! I *hate* it when people say this and I was told this nonstop for the past few years. I've lost friends because I kept cancelling on them. They thought I was just being flaky or that I was being anti-social. They also told me, "well, you're ALWAYS sick." Don't let this defeat you. You can help your friends understand by using THE SPOON THEORY. I've used this for a few of my friends and it's helped. I actually had some of them come back and apologize to me. Please read it, it's a great article. They also have a page on Facebook.

8. Don't give up (Tracy)! We all have rough patches that knock us down. However, get right back up and keep fighting! Lean on others for support.



9. You are NEVER alone! Find someone that you can talk and join a support group. My suggestion would be the Stronger Than GP Support Group (http://www.facebook.com/groups/strongerthanGP/) Feel free to add me as a friend. We, the admins and myself, get what you're going through. We're here to help.

10. Be patient (Judy)! While there is no cure for GP/DTP, we have good days and bad days. Sometimes, the bad outweighs the good, but it will pass. If you are having GP attacks, be patient and try some deep breathing exercises. The one that was suggested to me at Mayo is called Diaphragmatic Breathing and an instruction video can be found HERE.

11. Stay hydrated (Judy)! If you let yourself get dehydrated, that opens a whole new can of worms. You'll have terrible headaches, dizziness, fatigue, and maybe worse. Even if you are vomiting, try to suck on ice chips or if you can tolerate it, sip on Pedialyte. Stay away from Gatorade, speaking from personal experience. It's full of sugar that won't sit well on your stomach and then you'll have very interesting colored vomiting. If you don't stay hydrated, you'll end up on an IV in the ER, and that's miserable. Don't torture yourself.

12. Try and take liquid or melt away vitamins (Judy). I am currently dealing wtih a vitamin deficiency because my body is malnourished due to starvation. This just digs you into a hole and once you're there, it's hard to climb back out of it. Try Flinstone's chewables, vitamelts, or liquid vitamins. Stay away from things like gummy vitamins because they'll just sit in your stomach, undigested. I have recipes that are GP friendly, including juicing recipes at PINTEREST.

13. Lean on family (Julie). I know some people have families who aren't supportive because they think that the illness is in your head, still. Don't give up on trying to help them understand. Use the Spoon Theory (mentioned above). This is one of those situations where you will find out who your true friends are. If you lose friends like I did, then they weren't really your friends to begin with and now you have room to make new ones.

14. Praying/religious support (Lyndsay). If you are religious then prayer, faith, and emotional support from church members will help you through this. You can also seek emotional guidance from a priest to help you on your journey.

15. Keep yourself happy (Monica)! This is really important for your well being. If you need ways to cope with GP or distractions from the pain, please check out a previous entry I wrote by clicking HERE. It contains lots of ideas that you can use for inspiration. I like to write, distract myself with my favorite TV shows, and listen to music.

16. Keep looking until you find the right doctor (Nikki). Nikki writes, "don't forget that they work for you!" She's right. Keep searching until you find the doctor who is right for you. Find someone you can trust that will listen to you. I've gone through about ten GI doctors and I'm still having issues finding one that I can trust to listen to me. Don't get discouraged. The right doctors are out there.

17. Take advantage of the good days (Jessica). Good days with GP can be few and far between. So, take every minute of a good day and enjoy it! I've had one or two good days recently, so I milked it for all it was worth!

18. Snap out of Denial. We all go through it. I've eaten foods that I shouldn't have a few times because I really did believe when I was first diagnosed that it was all in my head. After I ate, however, the gastric spasms hit with a vengeance! LaShelle has written out the GP diet that was given to her at Mayo. You can ask her for it.

15. Dealing with Hypoglycemia. I use Shok Blocks because they work quickly and they don't taste that badly. The link to the Shok Blocks on Amazon is HERE.



I hope this article will make your transition to living with GP a little easier. If I may have missed something, please comment below and I will update my entry accordingly. Just remember that it's not in your head. I'm going to conclude with this passage from an unknown author:

I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.

I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.

I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.

I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.

-Author Unknown

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Debilitating Stomach Spasms & Miserable - Day 5 of Detox

I am trying to eat and even liquids like Miso soup or an ice cream milkshake cause debilitating stomach spasms that immediately start 20 to 30 minutes after I eat/drink it. The left part of my throat under my mouth is swollen and is painful. I think that could be from vomiting up bile, but I'm not sure. The headaches are still rather painful. I've been trying to drink apple juice and water in case it's a dehydration headache.

The spasms hurt so much. I almost cried several times today. I had to hold on to the counter and try to breathe through them. It felt like I had a charlie horse in my stomach. It just hurt so much and so intensely that I ended up vomiting up everything I had eaten for lunch.

I really wish I could take my medicine. I'm using Quease Ease and Preggie Pops, hoping they'll help. I managed to vomit myself into exhaustion today because I made the mistake of eating last night.

I'm sipping on Gatorade and trying to rehydrate myself to get rid of this severe headache that I've had for several days. It doesn't seem to be budging. I'm watching Doctor Who and trying to distract myself. I had friends over last night that distracted me from feeling awful, and that did help! I've missed hanging out with people.

I got to leave the house for a little while to help my husband shop for a Microwave, carrying bags and emergency vomiting supplies in my purse. I was fine for a bit but eventually, I had to go home because the illness hit with a vengeance.

People constantly tell me that I don't look sick, that I look really good. I don't feel very good. I'm going to share something with you that one of my friends on the Green's Not Easy Page. It's called THE SPOON THEORY. You should click on the link and read it. It applies to everyone with a chronic illness.

I'm just incredibly tired and I'm really tired of being ill. I'm scared to go back to Mayo Clinic the first week of February for testing. I'm terrified that either they're going to find something truly horrible making my GP worse, or nothing at all. I'm scared that I'm never truly going to stop vomiting long enough to finish my Geology degree. I'm scared I won't be able to work while my husband goes back to school. I want to repay my husband for all of the kindness and patience he's shown me but I'm just scared I'm not going to get better at all. I'm just miserable and I miss my friends. I miss being able to eat even simple things, like soup. I miss not being in pain.

I know all of this sounds incredibly selfish. That makes me feel guilty. I know there are so many people out there worse off than I am, and I constantly think of those people and hope they find some relief. I hope for all of our sakes, that someone will research GP and come up with a cure.